Are You A Victim Of Love?
There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Actions That Change Your Dating Mind
Are They Your Soulmate Or Your Faux-mate?
Are You Focusing Your Will On Being Single?
Are You Looking For Love Or Looking For A Life?
Are You Making Yourself A Priority In Relationships?
Are You On A Love Deadline? The Perfect Age For Love.
Are You Using Your Spiritual Work As A Means To Find A Partner?
Breaking Your Love Rules For Dating Success
Getting Over The Hurt When A Relationship Ends
The Best Break-Up Ever
eport this comment
Reply
XtinaS
Posted on December 7, 2011
Honestly, mapping jealousy straightaway to insecurity helped a whole lot. Instead of going “my partner is with someone else, and I am jealous, full stop!”, it became “my partner is with someone else, and I am feeling insecure; how do I want to address it?”. Alerted me to the control I already had, and dispelled a lot of that jealously nonsense I kept hearing from other quarters.
Report this comment
Reply
N. Likes
Posted on January 4, 2012
Why does jealousy get prioritized over all other emotions? When you date someone (or marry them), you’re signing up for the ENORMOUS likelihood of emotional pain when you break up, because, as Dan Savage says, every relationship ends except for the one that doesn’t. We sign up for that pain willingly, even enthusiastically, but we hide from jealousy as if it might kill us.
Jealousy is the only emotion we organize our lives NEVER to expose us to. And for me, at least, what REALLY makes me jealous isn’t what my wife or lover does, it’s what she WANTS to do. When she does something, it makes me envious….
Report this comment
Reply
Lady Jones
Posted on December 7, 2011
Sitting down with his girlfriend as you did? NFW. My heart was racing just thinking about it.
There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Actions That Change Your Dating Mind
Are They Your Soulmate Or Your Faux-mate?
Are You Focusing Your Will On Being Single?
Are You Looking For Love Or Looking For A Life?
Are You Making Yourself A Priority In Relationships?
Are You On A Love Deadline? The Perfect Age For Love.
Are You Using Your Spiritual Work As A Means To Find A Partner?
Breaking Your Love Rules For Dating Success
Getting Over The Hurt When A Relationship Ends
The Best Break-Up Ever
eport this comment
Reply
XtinaS
Posted on December 7, 2011
Honestly, mapping jealousy straightaway to insecurity helped a whole lot. Instead of going “my partner is with someone else, and I am jealous, full stop!”, it became “my partner is with someone else, and I am feeling insecure; how do I want to address it?”. Alerted me to the control I already had, and dispelled a lot of that jealously nonsense I kept hearing from other quarters.
Report this comment
Reply
N. Likes
Posted on January 4, 2012
Why does jealousy get prioritized over all other emotions? When you date someone (or marry them), you’re signing up for the ENORMOUS likelihood of emotional pain when you break up, because, as Dan Savage says, every relationship ends except for the one that doesn’t. We sign up for that pain willingly, even enthusiastically, but we hide from jealousy as if it might kill us.
Jealousy is the only emotion we organize our lives NEVER to expose us to. And for me, at least, what REALLY makes me jealous isn’t what my wife or lover does, it’s what she WANTS to do. When she does something, it makes me envious….
Report this comment
Reply
Lady Jones
Posted on December 7, 2011
Sitting down with his girlfriend as you did? NFW. My heart was racing just thinking about it.